This guest post has been written by Ralph Macey* and includes 7 signs your relationship is harming your mental health. I hope you find this post useful and interesting.
Good relationships make your life filled with happiness, laughter, and joy. You get a partner for enjoying all kinds of life’s adventures.
You have a positive mental attitude and the zeal to enjoy life as much as you can.
On the contrary, bad relationships make your life terrible.
They harm your emotional well-being and make your life terrible.
You feel insecure as you can’t rely on your partner in your hard times.
Deep down your heart, you know your partner will be the first person to run away when you’re in trouble.
So are you in a good relationship or a bad relationship?
Do you have any clue?
Do you even know that you’re facing relationship problems and probably need to consult an adult psychiatrist?
Here are a few signs that tell you’re in a toxic relationship and that is affecting your mental health.
1. You give a sigh of relief when your partner leaves
The sight of your partner should make you feel happy.
It should make your heart pound with excitement.
But if you feel relieved when your partner leaves, then that means he/she is causing you emotional stress.
You’re using all your mental energy just to accommodate him.
So when he/she leaves you, the feeling of relief sweeps into your mind.
2. You are depressed since the beginning of the relationship
According to a study in the Journal of Famly Psychology, individuals in toxic relationships are likely to get stressed and depressed.
Some of them can also develop suicidal thoughts.
A bad relationship is the biggest stress factor in life.
3. You feel exhausted after interacting with your partner
Do you feel exhausted physically and mentally after interacting with your partner?
Do you feel drained out?
Do you always end up fighting with each other?
If so, then it’s high time you speak to your partner about this issue.
Your relationship is making you feel exhausted.
Release your frustration and try to find an amicable solution.
My friend Abigail has been married for the last 8 years.
When she married James, she was a happy and self-confident woman.
She was smart, dynamic, and beautiful.
She worked hard and had a lucrative career.
Eight long years have passed and Abigail has changed completely.
Her husband is a moron (please forgive my language).
He stays at home and drinks at night.
He abuses Abigail both verbally and physically.
Her husband’s abusive behavior is taking a toll on her mental health.
Her performance at the office is poor because her entire focus is at home.
She is completely demotivated and has lost the zeal to live life.
The worst part is that Abigail wants to save her job but constant discouragement from James has made her lose all confidence she had.
5. You want to get out of the relationship but you can’t
Abigail wants to get out of this toxic relationship.
She is emotionally drained and depressed.
Her smile has vanished and she has stopped believing that something good can happen in the future.
The problem is she is too much attached to James. I don’t know if James loves her at all.
But Abigail loves him a lot and hopes that he will change for the better one day.
Unfortunately, that day never arrives and she doesn’t get any scope to get out of this toxic relationship.
6. You are suffering from different types of health issues
According to Psychological Bulletin, relationships have a direct impact on neurosensory, cardiovascular, physiological mechanisms, immune, endocrine, etc.
There is a direct relationship between your mental and physical health.
Toxic relationships can lead to muscle pain, sleep disorders, headaches, depression, and anxiety.
If you have any of these health issues due to your relationship, then it means there is an underlying mental issue.
7. You’re trying to make the relationship work
Are you the only one who tries to fix the relationship?
Are the only one who is ready to compromise and do everything to make the relationship work?
If you’re the only one to adjust and compromise for sustaining a healthy relationship, then it is taking a toll on your mental health.
You’re always worried. You talk consciously. You make all the efforts.
But you need to understand one thing – you can’t make everything right.
Your partner also needs to give time and make effort.
Otherwise, the relationship will fall apart one day. You can’t help it.
Do you constantly make excuses for your partner’s behaviour?
If so, then it’s a sign that you’re in a toxic relationship and that’s affecting your mental health.
When you make excuses for your partner’s abusive behaviour, you feel stressed and drained out.
You’re constantly worried about others. Your mind is always filled with various questions like “What will others think aboutthem? Will they talk tothem again?”
Also, when you’re making excuses for your partner, he/she gets a chance to continue his abusive behaviour without facing any consequence.
So the real problem never ends. There is no solution and you’re mental peace is gone.
Ralph Macey is associated with SavantCare for quite sometime now. His work ideology is to remove the social stigma associated with various types of mental disorders like ASD, schizophrenia, OCD, bipolar disorder, addiction, ADHD, depression, loneliness, insomnia, PTSD, etc.
His work focuses on the integrated interventions to improve the quality and efficiency of mental health care.
You can connect with him at Facebook
*Huge thank you to Ralph for writing this guest post. I have not received any financial compensation for this post. You are not obliged to click on any links or use any services.
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